Hello!And welcome back to the blog of Amber and my ramblings that I know you all love secretly π€£
So, as you’ve guessed, today’s post is going to be about the little things in life, the things that are small but have a big impact on your confidence and your emotions.
Well, I’m not the most confident person in life. I find eye-contact and personal questions awkward and embarrassing as I seem to struggle to find the words to say what I’m thinking or feeling without worrying about people judging me. Now, this post was inspired by Maggie @ Dreaming Of Guatemala and her incredible blog posts that inspire me every day that I’m not the only one π
A lil’ story to share with y’all…
Lately, I’ve been noticing my appearance a lot more, feeling a lot self-conscious about how I’m acting and how I’m looking (damn that pimple that will never go away… π) So, I’ve been focusing on my hair, as it’s something I don’t really invest a lot of time in / take a lot of notice of *same ponytail everyday*
A couple of days ago, I was plaiting my high ponytail and suddenly I found myself twisting it into a bun and I looked up and it looked really nice. It was one of the few hairstyles that actually look nice on me. I framed my face with some hair on the side that I’m growing (my forehead looks big otherwise π)
Anyways, let’s get to the point. So, when I got to school, lots of people said ‘Wow, Amber, you really suit that braided bun!’ or ‘I love your hair, it looks great!’ And I felt soo good. I felt on top of the moon, like I was a force to be reckoned with. I felt confident, beautiful and great! I don’t feel like that very often. And I realised how easy it is to make someone’s day. How easy it is to bring a smile to someone’s face, to make them realise how beautiful they truly are, inside and out, to make them feel confident and beautiful. Because we are all beautiful. Just some people like to flaunt it more than others.
So, from now on, instead of worrying people will think I’m judging them when I say ‘Ooo, I love your shoes!’ I’m going to tell people, tell them when I like their hair, when I like their make-up, because people need to know. Ir’s self-motivating and sometimes it can get you through the day just knowing that somebody out there likes you.
So, interesting subject there. A bit of food for thought for y’all.
Have you ever experienced this before? What are your thoughts and opinions?
Quick questions. Does anybody know how you change your site URL?!
I’ll look forward to hearing it in the comments!!
I read Autumn’s post and now I’m reading yours haha. Is God trying to tell me something?? xd. I do compliment people all the time because it makes me so happy to see people smile and/or blush. Very nice post, Amber! xx
Yep, what a coincidence, right?! π Yep, heβs giving you a coded message π It really does! π Itβs nice that youβre nice to people, and itβs great that you get something out of it! β¨π· Thank you so much Isa! π
Amber x
Wow Amber! π this was SUCH an amazing post to read, I loved reading it and the message it gives out is perfect. π I definitely agree with everything youβve said; it doesnβt take much to go out of your way and compliment others, especially when unprompted, and it can 100% boost their confidence for that day! You never know, they also might be more tempted to compliment you as well in the future β¨! (Also, I read this post in the morning, and it was such a lovely way to start the day, so thank you for that!) Great post as always, Autumn x
Aw, Autumn, your lovely comments are so nice! π I was hoping I worded it right, because it was hard to get out what I was trying to say, I was really nervous about posting this but your lovely comments re-assure me that itβs okay to be a lilβ deep sometimes π Exactly, it takes 10 seconds and itβs free, it doesnβt cost you anything. But it makes such a difference and some people have no idea how much that compliment does make a difference π Yes! Youβre so right, it really boosts their confidence, especially if they are slightly awkward and really self-conscious. Exactly, when you compliment someone it also makes it easier for them to compliment you as the flow of βcomplimentingβ (that sounds weird π) has started! π· Aw, thatβs such a nice thing to say! That means the world to me that Iβve put a good start to someoneβs day, be confident and beautiful! ππ·
Thank you so much,
Amber x
Amber, I always love reading your comments, they are always so genuine and heartfelt! π You seriously are amazing at wording things right in all your posts and this post has stuck with me ever since I read it! π
I must admit I get nervous at posting some of my posts, and I agree that sometimes you’ve got to take the risk! I think no matter how big or how small your blog is, you’ll always get a jittery feeling in your tummy when you post something more ‘daring’, as such! π Anyway, your post was amazing, and I loved your writing style! Have a great rest-of-the week, Autumn x
Aw, thank you so much Autumn, the feeling is mutual! π Autumn that means the world to me, and itβs nice to know that I have a genuine, direct writing style! π
Definitely can relate to that jittering feeling! But you definitely have to take the risk, because it pays off, and it makes you feel brave! β¨π Thank you so much Autumn, you have no idea how much that means to me ππ· Your lovely comments are sometimes what keeps me going.
You too, to the last two days of school!
Amber x
Great post. It is so relatable. We all have bad days and just to receive a simple complement could completely turn things around. Those little things help boost self confidence, at some days I am at the receiving end so I do try to be at the giving end as well. And also, I don’t flatter people if I don’t mean it. I hand out compliments when it best suits them, this way it is more genuine and real. Have a great day.
Aw, thank you Eva! π Iβm glad ya can relate, I was super nervous to post this but am really happy with the feedback π It really does! That little compliment of their hair boosts confidence, self-esteem and their knowing of their beauty. Itβs always good to give, but it is okay to be on the receiving end, we all need a little compliment every once in a while π· Yes, youβre totally right. Dinβt flatter someone if you donβt want to or if you donβt even like what you are flattering, just doing it to well be nice, because itβs important to be honest.
Thank you for reading and for sharing you lovely thoughts, have a great day too β¨
Amber x
Anytimeπ I enjoyed the topic very well. I too struggle with my self esteem. So itβs something very personal and close to my heart .
Yessssssssssssssss, girl, yes!
Glad you can agree π
Loved this post – and I love your rambling πβ¨ππ! That new bun really suits you and ur style ! Itβs great how youβre taking about this on here – itβs really inspirational ππ I can really relate to feeling shy complimenting someone and youβve really showed me why I should π It feels great when someone says something nice about you β¨ Great post ( as always ) Isabel xo
Aw, itβs good to know people like my crazy but true ramblings π It re-assures me that Iβm not the only one. Aw, thanks, Isabel!! ππ That means a lot. I hope to inspire people to get over their insecurities and believe they are beautiful, because we all are! Itβs definitely nerve-wracking complimenting, but sometimes it can be nerve-wracking stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something different with you appearance, so we should congratulate people for doing that, whether itβs wearing a new hair-style or a new jumper, it all counts! π
Thank you so much, Iβm glad you can understand β¨
Amber x
Wow! Youβre gonna make me cry! Itβs so important and amazing how noticing the little things about someone can make their day! Especially at our age where we all feel so self conscious and as though we have to compare ourselves to others, celebrities or even other girls at school. Iβm so glad you wrote about this, itβs so important that we support each other and not have to worry about what other people think!! β€οΈ
Iβve just realised how deep this post is, Iβve really touched some people π It really is, it doesnβt seem like anything big, or like it can make a big impact on life but it really can make their day, itβs made my day! π Tell me about it, this generation is all about comparison and itβs not good for our self-esteem or mental health. Yes, somebody had to say it! π Thank you so much Kiwi for understanding, I was really nervous to post this, I wasnβt sure how people would react but peopleβs reactions have been amazing and I feel like Iβve really opened some peopleβs eyes! β¨π Iβm all about supporting people and trying them the people who judge you are sometimes just jealous of what youβve got, and youβve got to lift your head up high and be beautiful!
Thank you so much Kiwi, it means a lot that you agreed with what I said π·
Amber x
Aww we all love your ramblings!! ππ It makes me SO happy that my posts inspire you, Amber – you have no idea how much that means to me. π
Isnβt it exciting to try our new hairstyles?? Iβm so glad you found one that suits you and boosts your self-confidence! I like high ponytails because they make me look sporty or professional (it depends on the outfit accompanying it π), wearing my hair down and parted to the side pulls any outfit Iβm wearing together, and a messy bun is fun and casual.
I always feel shy complimenting someone, because I never know how theyβre going to respond. However, when I do take that chance, it is so very rewarding!! MOST people appreciate compliments, even when they donβt know how to show it.
Iβm so glad weβre both working on complimenting people more!! Thatβs an important part of loving people ππ
I really enjoyed this post!
Iβm glad π Sometimes I do go off on one though π Itβs nice to know you guys stick with me π Aw, they really do – no joke. Iβm glad, because if Iβm inspired, I age how many other people are inspired?! A majority of the blogosphere.
It definitely is! Itβs a great self-esteem and confidence boost, and just makes you feel great in yourself! π Thatβs great! Itβs whatever works for you, Iβm not knocking high-ponytails – they suit tons of people! Yes, definitely, if youβre wearing sports clothes and a high ponytail itβs like the perfect combo β¨ Parted to the side, yass!! That really works for me (not allowed hair down at the school I go to… *groan*) Messy bun just gives that relaxed vibe, which also works!
Yes, itβs really nerve-wracking sometimes complimenting people especially when they say βNo, my hair isnβt pretty.β And youβre just like just accept the compliment for once π Yes, it is extremely rewarding! To you and the receiver.
Yes, itβs a great thing to set as a goal! π Letβs hope we can both succeed at it, I believe in us πβ¨ It is, supporting and loving people, showing people that everybody suffers from the same insecurities they are experiencing π
Aw, Iβm glad you liked it. I was really nervous about posting this, not sure how everybody would react but the reply so far has been great π
Thank you Maggie π
Amber x
Oh my goodness Amber! π This post actually made me cry π’ in a good way though π just realising all the tiny things that can make someoneβs day and make someone feel so confident. Remember that nobody will judge you and that youβre beautiful side and out, as long as you have friends who care, love and support you that great. I know people are always looking for change whether itβs in their appearance or behaviour, I recently been trying out some new hairstyles, because I just got it cut and it really boosts youβre confidence when people compliment you or notice, but for those people who donβt, just ignore them, because everyoneβs beautiful in their own way! π
Oh my god! Jee, I didnβt want to make people cry π At least it was a good way though π It really is, itβs something Iβve never thought about or realised and well now I do, and itβs a great feeling complimenting somebody, especially when theyβve had a bad day! Awww, thanks Hannah π That means a lot, and thatβs literally what you have to keep on telling yourself. I do, they are amazing! π They are supportive and inspirational, and sometimes keep me going π Yes, we are always picking out our imperfections, arenβt we?! If only we all could be content with ourselves. Thatβs great! Iβm sure all the hairstyles look amazing on you π· Itβs always nice to try out something new, live a little. Exactly, I guess some people are jealous so they like to ignore the perfections in other people! π Heh, weβll forget about them.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment ππ
Amber x
Youβre welcome! I totally agree! Xx
I wanted to quickly say that to change your blog URL, go to the βMy Sitesβ tab and click βDomains.β You should be able to do it there π Iβll comment on the rest of the post in a minute!
Oh, okay, thank you so much for your help β¨ I will definitely be taking a look at that now! No worries, thank you soo much for telling me that π I would end up never figuring it out π Tour a life saver! π